Monday, January 7, 2008

Why Not?

Leap… and suddenly you realize you are the net!

We all share a common illusion: that we are in control. Of course, we do have the capability to make choices, and those choices will surely have an impact on the direction we take, but I think we can get into trouble when we become attached to the idea that those choices we make will actually bring us safety and security, when in truth, how could we possibly predict that? It really hit home in a big way, one day, when my husband and I were debating yet another scenario of polar opposite opinions. It occurred to me, neither one of us was wrong, just lobbying for our own sense of security. Isn’t that what every decision and choice we make in our life is ultimately based upon? Security, comfort? Could it be this is why we feel we sometimes need to fight so hard - to defend our fundamental sense of security and wellbeing? When, ironically, the idea of security for one person, can translate into sheer terror for another! One person can feel better talking out her issues when another may feel more secure keeping them inside; some people feel safer investing in stocks, others in real estate; and maybe some find more comfort remaining in the familiar, while others fear boredom or stagnancy and look for change.

I found had to allow myself to, yet again, grieve another major loss – the letting go of the concept of stability, safety, security – and come to a resolve and finally a comfort and liberation in letting go, to have faith I will play my part on whatever stage is set, to relax and ask “why not?” instead of “why? ”, and to be open to the newness that every moment brings while truly respecting the path of others.

Peace and many blessings.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

That really hits home Kajisan! It is almost too much outside of our own heads to understand how what can mean so much to me, in terms of safety, sureness, just the way to get it done,...can mean absoluty the opposite to another. When that other person is your spouse, business partner or dear friend or even child, it can be unbelievably challenging to stop our own fear machine and ask, why not. You are right, why not is much better than why. Why puts others on the defensive, suddenly they have to defend their position, why not, puts them in the offensive and you can all relax.

Why not? Wonderful.
love,
d